Don't Talk About It - Be About It!

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You can do ANYTHING you put your mind to! I repeat, you can do ANYTHING you put your mind to! Whatever you want to do in your life or be in life - reach for it!

Contrary to what is said oftentimes, don't pursue your personal successes to prove someone wrong, pursue it because it is your passion, your drive...your dream! You don't have time to talk about it, only be about it! With social media outlets right on hand, when we feel someone is underestimating our abilities, we sometimes rush to tap on to our social media sites and make statements about proving people wrong, etc. Don't let negativity be your motivation. When you are driven, you don't have time for sidebars and distractions. You are on your mission and have your eyes on the prize - your dreams! Success speaks for itself and you don't have to say one word. 

There will be distractions and unexpected things that may pop up because that's a part of life but if you keep swatting those curve balls away, you will get there!  Set your long term and short term goals, stay focused, and go get what you want in this life! Leave no room for concentrating on what others are saying and doing. Put all your energy into yourself and accomplishing your goals.

Venae

I Hear What You're Saying and It's Tearing Me Apart!

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So often, we are our own worst enemy! The thoughts that run through our minds manifest into how we view ourselves, our confidence level, and how we feel about ourselves on the overall. When we have negative thoughts, "I don't look good", "I'm not pretty enough", "I'm fat", etc., we live that feeling day in and day out.

It is so very important that we are our biggest cheerleaders, that we make ourselves feel great everyday, and that we think good thoughts when it comes to how we feel about ourselves. It’s time we stop criticizing ourselves and start loving the perfectly imperfect beings that we truly are!

Self-esteem and confidence are two things that help us walk through this life being strong mentally and emotionally. Without them, we are so susceptible to hurt and pain which leads to negative feelings about ourselves and how we look. 

In an effort to break the cycle of negative thinking, try to start each week with a positive thought. Look in the mirror and find something that you love about yourself, write it down on a piece of paper and tell yourself that positive thought everyday for a week. Start the following week off with a new positive thought about yourself. Live it, own it, and embrace it! Reversing the cycle of negativity about yourself starts with you. Let's do it!

Venae

I Couldn't Care Less About What You Think Of Me!

More often than not, this is the mindset that we need in life - "I couldn't care less about what you think of me!". As body shaming is becoming more and more prevelant with the internet making it that much easier to insult and put down other people, we have to go through life with a very strong self-esteem and confidence aka thick skin. There are so many platforms that can be used to hurt people and some folks are taking advantage of that!big time!

While it's easy to say that people should just stop being cruel, truth is, that's not going to happen. Instead, we have to learn to take negativity very lightly.  

Last week, Tayja Jones of Pennsylvania, was the receiver of very nasty and distasteful comments online after she posted her prom pictures to her private social media accounts.  She quickly regretted putting her pictures up.  

Tayja stated "it was just really hurtful because I was so confident the day before, and it just changed my view of myself,” she said.

Photo courtesy of @taylajones twitter

Photo courtesy of @taylajones twitter

How can people be so mean? That old saying still holds true, "if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all!". Since when did it become okay to outright insult anyone? 

With the help of many supporters,  an online campaign to reverse the negativity went underway and many people came together to support Tayja.

Tayja had words of encouragement for others dealing with cyberbullying, “You’re not the only person. You should know who you are inside, and the outside shouldn’t affect the inner you. Just stay strong,” she said.

Celebrities also go through body shaming and the pressure of being thin and have to endure negative comments publicly as well. Singer Adele and actress Gabourey Sidibe are just a few that come to mind that have both been ridiculed in the media because of their size. 

Photo courtesy of Instagram @gabby3shabby & @adele

Photo courtesy of Instagram @gabby3shabby & @adele

So many of you go through body shaming every day and we are here to tell you that you are beautiful no matter what others have to say and you must truly believe and live that!  Beauty is not about your size and don't let anyone make you feel any different! The beauty of beauty is that it comes in all shapes and sizes, skin colors, etc. Believe that!

Venae

Prom 2K16

So it's prom season again!! This is such an exciting time of the year. With so many great things going on like researching and selecting colleges to graduation pictures and senior trips, it's no wonder that this level of anticipation for prom is also on the top of the list of fun things to look forward to as the school year comes closer to an end. 

Picking out dresses, finding the right shoe, wondering how you're going to wear your hair are just a few of the things to consider in prom-prep mode.

Photo courtesy of: @AlishaMarie-YouTube Channel

Photo courtesy of: @AlishaMarie-YouTube Channel

While this is a very exciting time for most, prom season can be very stressful as well. While your planning for your big prom night, don't stress yourself about not having a prom date, if that is the case. Sometimes you have to do things alone and that's quite okay. Why set home and miss such a lovely event just because you weren't asked to the prom? Instead, find mutual friends who are going to the prom alone and plan to hang out with them on prom night. You worked hard throughout your school years and deserve to be present with or without a date and enjoy this memorable evening. Always remember, your beauty and self-worth is much bigger than being asked out on a prom date. Don't let not being asked to the prom determine how you feel about yourself. 

Remeber to have a blast, enjoy your friends and take lots of selfies. These are some of the most memorable years!

May Is "National Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month"

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Did you know...

Youth are less likely to get pregnant or get someone pregnant if they have:

  • Open communication with adults about using contraception.
  • Supportive parents.
  • Healthy family dynamics.
  • Healthy relationships with peers.
  • Peers who use condoms.
  • Accurate knowledge about sexual health, pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, and the importance of abstinence.

Youth are more likely to get pregnant or get someone pregnant if they:

  • Live in poverty.
  • Are the child of a teen parent.
  • Are from a single-parent home.
  • Live in a home with a lot of family conflict.
  • Have sex at a young age.
  • Use and/or abuse drugs and alcohol at a young age.
  • Have low self-esteem.

First Lady Michelle Obama Asks: Share 5 Tips For A Happy and Healthier Life #GimmeFive

The First Lady asked and we shall answer! In celebrating the 5th anniversary of Her "Let's Move" campaign, First Lady Michelle Obama asked the nation to share 5 tips for a happy and healthier life. We believe in heart health and with that comes a combination of exercise and healthy eating. 

Tips from Us:

1. Eat a piece of fruit with your breakfast every morning;

2. Drink 2 glasses of water with you meals; 

3. Blend a fruit and veggie smoothie once a day; 

4. On your break during the day either during work or school, go for a power walk. Put your head phones on and take a nice powerful walk for 30 minutes;

5. Take your multi-vitamin every day. Vitamins are a supplement that gives you extra nutrients where your body may be deficient. 

I challenge all of my readers to try these 5 tips. 

Let us know what 5 tips you want to share. 

 

"Jessie" Star Debby Ryan on surviving an abusive relationship

"Jessie" Star Debby Ryan opens up about surviving an abusive relationship.  

Debby Ryan is ready to share her brave story of surviving an abusive relationship.

The 21-year-old Disney star, who has gained millions of fans thanks to her hit series Jessie, is opening up to Teen Vogue about a friendship that turned out to be unhealthy in more ways than one.

"I wasn't dating this person. This person considered themselves my best friend," she told the publication. "We also had a professional relationship and it was such emotional manipulation to the point where it became physical, and it stopped before it got too far."

Click Here to read the entire story on online.